family, kindness, mom, reflection

Weathering Kindness and Change

Winter weather in the south is often a hit-or-miss event. There are some years where we have so many snow days occur that our district calendar is modified to make up for the loss of instructional time. There are other years where rain and sleet are the best we get, making for a long, dark season with no surprises.

Despite the uncertainty of a snowstorm in our area coming to fruition, we – and I speak for so many who live here, trust me – get a little over-the-top excited by even the potential of some snow on the ground.

It’s a big deal.

Our local forecasters have been watching this most recent storm drape its snow and rain bands across the country from west to east. You can hear the excitement in their voices as their projections shift from “maybe a trace” to “several inches possible.”

Children start to get giddy, talking about wearing their pajamas inside out, flushing ice cubes down the toilet, and placing spoons under pillows. (Don’t ask me how or why these rituals began, but they are so common that the Today show even published a post about them!)

I did the only thing a southern Momma could do in times like this.

I went to the grocery store.

Apparently, every other southern Momma had the same idea, because there were no parking spaces to be found. The lack of available carts was reminiscent of pre-COVID Black Friday shopping days, where everyone scrambled just to get in the door.

Lines of four to five people deep blocked aisles as everyone stocked up on the essentials: milk, bread, and toilet paper. I made a beeline for the hot chocolate aisle and grabbed two of the few remaining boxes on the shelf.

After coming home and putting my groceries away, I peeked at Facebook to see if our weather guru, Andrew Freiden with NBC12, had any updates on his page. It still looked promising. We might get some snow!

As I scrolled through the rest of my feed, I was struck by the kindness I saw in people’s posts, wanting to share outgrown boots and bibs with those in need.

Even my text message threads were filled with offers of kindness for the storm:

Reading these posts made my heart soar and brought back memories of when my children were little. I was reminded of a time when I, too, had snow boots to share and couldn’t wait to bless someone else. After all, when you live in the south where snow is never a guarantee, it’s not really a necessary expenditure to stock up on these things year after year.

But as a child?

There is no greater joy than playing outside in the snow.

When I went to sleep last night, there was excitement in the air. The projections looked good. The temperature was below freezing and the snow/rain line had shifted further south. Even so, there was always a possibility that things could change, as shown by our meteorologist’s last post of the evening:

Things could shift overnight. That sneaky rain line could move up and we might awaken with wet streets and muddy yards. Only time would tell. There was nothing we could do but wait and hope for the best, our supplies in place just in case they were needed.

Hours passed in darkness.

The morning dawn brought white skies that stretched across the horizon.

There was snow on the ground.

JOY!

As I raced to the front door to take a few snapshots (you would have thought that I was the child, my eagerness so apparent), I felt a funny notch in my throat as I glanced to the right and saw the snow covered street where our snow hill used to be.

The last time we had enough snow for sleds, that street was a cul-de-sac wrapped with a forest where my children spent hours sledding through the trees. Today there are houses lined along the edges of a road that connect one neighborhood to the next. Their childhood snow day experiences are now memories of the mind and faded photographs stored in a box.

Landscapes change.

Seasons change.

Children change.

Adults do, too.

Capture the moments of joy when they happen. Give yourself permission to simply be in the moment and soak up the fun while you can. Whether it’s buying hot chocolate, pulling out ski bibs and boots, or measuring the snow with a ruler, make those memories while you can.

You just never know when the snow may turn to rain.


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Blessing Others, Kind Actions

Random Acts of Kindness – My 100th RAK Blog Post

This week as I was driving my boys home after school, I overheard a fascinating conversation about flowers.  Prior to entering the car, my youngest son picked a dandelion from the grass and proudly held it towards me.  “Mommy!  A flower for you!”

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I accepted the yellow sunburst as if it was the most beautiful tulip, shining in the sun.  “Thank you so much!  I love it!”  Moments later I heard my oldest son sharing his own words of wisdom, gleaned from his vast 10 years of experience on this earth:

“I don’t think girls like dead flowers.  That flower was alive when you saw it, but now that you pulled it out of the ground, it’s gonna die and girls don’t like dead flowers.  Next time you might want to give her fake flowers. Girls love fake flowers because they last forever.”

Such words of wisdom.  It took everything in my power not to interject with advice from a girl’s perspective.  I simply chuckled to myself and made a mental note to share a conversation with  my son before he asked a girl out on their first date, scouring the bins of Michael’s craft store for the most beautiful fake flowers money could buy, lol.

His comments did resonate in my brain, however, and gave me pause to think.  What is it about live flowers that have such a great appeal versus fake flowers?  Is it their brilliance in color that cannot be replicated?  Or maybe it’s their temporary presence, blooming only for a short time, reminding us all to enjoy beauty while it lasts.  I believe it’s a little of both. Artificial flowers, while pretty and everlasting, can’t quite compare to the real deal.

Which brings me to my 100th RAK blog post.  I wanted to do something extra special for this RAK and suddenly it became crystal clear what I could do.  But first, I needed to buy some flowers.  I wanted to visit my Grandma.  🙂

Today was a beautiful day for a drive.  Leaving the city behind and traveling where the green hills roll and white fences stand was blissful even in itself. Two dozen fresh tulips sat in the floorboard of my car, their subtle magenta petals starting to spread.  A folded garden flag  detailing daffodils and butterflies accompanied me on my journey along with a small bunny figurine. The drive was long, but peaceful, as all country drives should be. Within the hour, I arrived at my destination to deliver my flowers and gifts.

The ground was soft as I made my way from gravel to grass.  I could hear the birds chirping in the trees as they announced their pleasure at the return of spring.  The sky was a flawless blue, not a cloud to be seen, and the sun’s rays streamed down, warming me as I walked the short path to visit with my Grandma.

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Now I could spend the next five hours telling you stories about my Grandma, about our family plot in this cemetery, about how she battled ovarian cancer for 6 years, about her unselfish love for me and all those she knew.  But this RAK wasn’t just about bringing flowers to my grandma and tidying up her grave.  This RAK was actually about Shelby Ann.

Many years ago, 27 years to be exact, my Grandma and I were in this same cemetery together, two spots to the left, changing out flowers on my Great-Grandma Chick’s grave.  Since this cemetery is shared by several families, we are always aware of “someone new” being buried here.  A small marker stuck out of the ground and said simply “Shelby Ann Menard 1984 – 1987”. My Grandma had heard on the local news that there had been a fire in a trailer home and a little three year old girl lost her life in the fire so we assumed this was where her body was put to rest.  We were both saddened to think of someone dying so young.  As we stared at the fresh mound of dirt, so small in length, my Grandma walked away and returned with a few flowers from the arrangement we had brought for our family member.  “She needs a few flowers.  She’s part of our family now.”

And so began the tradition of bringing Shelby Ann flowers, too.

Years and years of flowers have been brought to Shelby Ann, sometimes they remain and sometimes they do not.  We have never met her family during our visits, and for more than a decade her death was marked by nothing more than the initial marker provided by the funeral home.  We were surprised on one of our visits to discover her sweet name engraved on a plaque, shiny and new.  She was loved!  Oh, how wonderful! That joy was turned to sorrow when another visit revealed the corner of the plaque broken and chipped, apparently the unintentional victim of a lawn mower.

Have you ever wondered about the stories that a simple headstone can hold?  We live.  We die.  How many stories are lost with that final departure?  Who is left to tell Shelby Ann’s story?  Who will be left to tell mine or yours?  Weighty questions best saved for another day.

Today, for my 100th RAK, I brought flowers to my Grandma and a girl I never even knew.  And despite my son’s wonderful advice, I went with real instead of fake.

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A sweet bunny for Shelby Ann
A sweet bunny for Shelby Ann

As we enter the Easter season, reflecting on the sacrifice Jesus made for us, think for a moment about a sacrifice you could make for someone else. Is there something you could do for another?  Jesus paid the ultimate sacrifice, dying on a cross, and no one can ever come close to that.  But you know what?  You can still give of yourself.  Your time.  Your compassion. You really can be the change you hear people talk about.  Even if the only “change” you do is bring flowers to someone’s grave.

Every act done in kindness matters.  🙂

Be blessed my friends and thank you again for sharing in my journey. Here’s to the next 100 RAKs!  Cheers!