kindness, writing

The Price of Service

Each year his face surfaces in my mind, like a soft, gentle reminder of what could have been. He was a childhood friend sharing elementary classes and his silly grin is vivid now as if he was still sitting near me in class, whispering a joke he knew would cause someone to laugh at an inappropriate time.

I see reflections of him in the students I serve and I sometimes wonder if they, too, will choose a similar path.

A path of honor.

A path of distinction.

A path that may stop abruptly without explanation.

A little more than fifteen years ago, I welcomed my second child into this world, his birth a joyous celebration. The very next day, the life of my childhood friend ended, one of many casualties in a conflict fought on foreign soil.

There were no celebrations for his family.

When I returned home from the hospital, I wrote his parents a letter and filled it with memories of their son, as I sat in my living room holding my own son in the crook of my arm. The tears streamed down my face as I thanked them for their priceless gift to this world. As the wife of an Air Force veteran, I understood all too well the worries and fears of sending a loved one away to a land filled with hate, horror, and helplessness.

Their son made a difference in the lives of strangers.

Their son made a difference in the lives of those with whom he served.

Their son made a difference in me.

Today I remember my dear friend, J.R. Teal, and all the other fallen soldiers who have lost their lives protecting our country. Their price of sacrifice is greater than this Momma’s heart can bear to describe.

May we always remember those who serve bravely, taking risks to make this world filled with kindness, love, and peace. They are the heroes whose legacies live on forever.

Thank you J.R.

Thank you for being my friend.

Blessing Others, Kind Actions

Thank You For Your Service

Memorial Day brings a tidal wave of emotion for many. As we reflect on our freedom, we are reminded of the ultimate sacrifice paid by thousands. To grasp the magnitude of such a solemn gift is nearly incomprehensible.

Today we are traveling almost 500 miles by car and I’m caught in a quandary of thoughts as I look out my passenger-side window.

Cities with grand monuments. Small-town shops flanked with flags. Parades and picnics, celebrating all the benefits we enjoy from the service and sacrifice of others.

I am humbled.





I saw a meme in my newsfeed today that stated “It’s Memorial Day, not Veteran’s Day. Don’t confuse the two.” I was taken aback by the bluntness and I respectfully disagree. While both holidays were created to honor separate entities of service, I feel that any moment of respect shown to our service members, whether past or present, fallen or alive, is worthy of our time.

Driving down Main Street (in more than one town!), your attention is drawn to the details – the kindness shown by community members to honor those who deserve our respect.

As we traversed from north to south, I was struck by the pride shown in various towns for their “Hometown Heroes.” One had vertical banners placed on light posts, depicting the names, photos, and branches of service represented by their citizens.



Another town had rows of flags placed in a field with a simple sign of pride.



To live in a country that allows so many freedoms, including the right to free speech, I am overwhelmed with gratitude and thankfulness.

And though I am stuck in the passenger seat of my car, I still found a way to show my appreciation to those who passed me by.